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Bardo, Buddhism and the Art of Dying
By Terri Nash, Ms, CPM

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The Tibetans are practical people. Living traditionally at the rooftop of the world, they embraced the realities of birth, life and death. Their generations of wisdom and practical applications to such things as death become a highly valuable gift to our western fear-of-death-modern culture.

The Tibetans say, “Death is certain.” Simple, clear and direct. Death is certain. We think we know that, but our innermost fear as humans is the uncertainty of death. They go onto say, “The time of death is uncertain.” With uncertainty there is unease. The tools and techniques the Tibetans have ease the innate fear of death and go further into developing skills useful to navigate this journey.

When individuals are able to viscerally embody an understanding that life-death-life is a pulse, a continuum, one realizes that, “Everyone dies, but no one is dead.” One can also look to the natural world and see no endings that are final, only, as the first law of thermodynamics states, “Energy is neither created nor destroyed, only transformed.” With this never-ending transformation, the Tibetans and other Buddhists suggest that what takes rebirth is not a fixed “thing” or “self” but rather a subtle mind stream, or a continuum of awareness.

A very very subtle energetic continuously transforming. A kind of evolutionary tapestry. Death from that view is actually a beginning. And this beginning begins with a transition, a ”bardo” in Tibetan. An “in-between” state as it is often called. In- between one life and the next. Life-bardo-death-bardo-rebirth…pulses within a continuum. The Tibetans examined this pulse with utmost care and meticulous experiential observation via their meditation masters over many generations. They have much to contribute in this “map” of our shared human journey for both caregivers and the dying person.

It is said that a healthy person with a modicum of self awareness will know up to as much as two years before that one has entered the dying process. Dying is not seen as a fixed point, but a process. With these internals signals, one commences a set of skills hopefully already familiar in one’s life. These include the practicing and memorization, the familiarization of how the elements dissolve within us. They suggest there are coherent, predictable sequences of signs internal and external that one can become familiar with to ease the journey. This is where the “Art” comes in.

It is not considered morbid to familiarize oneself with these signs and sequences during one’s healthy years. It is considered prudent and wise. One would not travel anywhere without being adequately prepared? So why exclude death preparation? After all, it is the most important journey of one’s life! It is encouraged to become familiar with these signs. His Holiness the Dalai Lama writes in his book Mind of Clear Light, “When the actual process of dying begins, you pass through eight phases. The first four involve the collapse of the four elements.The last four involve the collapse of consciousness into the innermost level of mind, called the mind of clear light.”

Phase 1. Earth Dissolving into Water As our bodies weaken, the strength wanes. This is the earth element weakening. The body dramatically thins, vitality and luster is lost, sight dims. One may subjectively feel a sense of sinking into the earth or mud and instinctively cry out “Help me!” , or “Hold me up!” This point is often misunderstood in a western context. Caregivers are often at loss and interpret this as a request for more morphine for example. When one understands these signs, whether as a caregiver or one who is dying, then one can be with it more skillfully. The body, its earth element weakens to a point of dissolution into the water element. What one sees subjectively within the mind is like a mirage.

Phase 2. Water Dissolving into Fire Fluids dry out. Mouth and tongue get dry, scum forms on teeth. Sound begins to diminish. The capacity of water diminishes and fire is enhanced. The warmth of the body increases. Caregivers may observe a “fever” as warmth climaxes. What one sees is thin smoke or puffs of smoke billowing.

Phase 3. Fire Dissolving into Wind All movement functions of the body- such as inhalation, exhalation, burping, spitting, swallowing, flexing joints, opening and closing eyes, digestion, etc.- all diminish. One experiences difficulty breathing, exhalations become longer, inhalations shorter, the throat may rattle or gasping sounds occur. One can no longer pay attention to wishes or activities of those around them. One subjectively sees within the mind sparks or fireflies.

Phase 4. Wind Dissolving into Space When the coarse wind dissolves, the tongue becomes short and thick, the root turning bluish. Experiencing physical touch is impossible as is physical action. Breath through the nostril ceases however there are subtle levels of breath or “wind” that continue. So it is said that the cessation of breath through the nostril does not indicate completion of the death process. What one sees in one’s mind is like the flickering of a light above a candle. The light flickers as if the flame were about to be consumed. As the winds furthers dissolution, the flame’s appearance becomes steady.

It is thought that the time near death is dangerous in that one sets the course of the next rebirth at this time. It is an exquisitely delicate time. So special in its contribution to a future rebirth that any irritation, aggravation or annoyance may turn to anger by the dying person and contributes negative factors to one’s future rebirth.

The caregivers provision of a serene atmosphere as well as speech and mindful actions are essential in this time. One is encouraged as a caregiver to remind the dying person gently of all the positive things one has done in life. To assure the dying person of where they are , and what might be happening in each phase in a soft, kind voice. Often spiritual texts are read.

Phase 5. White Appearance This begins the emergence of three subtler energetic-mind appearances. This phase is also called, the “moon-like” luminosity. There is no objective light, it is a subjective state of shining white light. One is in a clinical death state, yet the Tibetans assert these phases are an active function of the dying process.

Phase 6. Red Appearance This phase dawns of its own accord in a red-orange hue. It is described as like an autumn sky free from dust, utterly clear with pervading red-orange light. It is also called “increase of appearance” because of an appearance like vivid sunlight appears, yet there is no external light.

Phase 7. Black Appearance This state is like the color of dusk, or thick darkness. Nothing else appears in the mind. During the first part of this phase one is still aware, however in the latter part of this phase one goes unconscious like fainting.

Phase 8. Clear Light At this point, the mind becomes even more subtle. The unconsciousness is cleared away and the mind of clear light manifests non-conceptual and non-dual. It is described as a clear openness like sky. Sky mind.

It is said that the most subtle consciousness usually remains in the body for three days after clinical death to complete these subtle stages. The exceptions include sudden death or a disease ravaged body where the phases may be accelerated.

Every moment of life has a bardo, an in-between essence, a transition. The dying process is no different. The quality of the bardo states we enter and the quality of a dying experience rests on the mindfulness the dying person and the caregivers. Allowing ourselves to be active in familiarization of the phases and stages of dying and death brings wisdom and ease to this momentous journey. |

|Mind of Clear Light: Advice on Living Well and Dying Consciously by His Holiness the XIVth Dalai Lama and Jeffrey Hopkins, 2003, Atria Books.|

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      • Donna Peizer, Past Treasurer
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    • Home Death Care in California >
      • Home Funeral Paperwork
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    • Death Care >
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      • Green Burial Santa Monica 2016
      • Green Burial Video from GBC
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      • Presentation: Natural Organic Reduction + YouTube link
    • Natural Organic Reduction Amigo Bob's story
    • Rules for Scattering Ashes
    • Find A Grave (website)
    • Aquamation: Water Cremation >
      • Desmond Tutu: Aquamation
    • Cremation- Not so Environmentally Friendly!
  • Events & News
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    • EOL Doulas fight for Rights >
      • Podcast 2023 INTERVIEW: The Doulas Taking on California's Cemetery/Funeral Bureau
      • Death Doulas C&C Article Nov. 2021
      • California Death Doulas Fight
      • LA TIMES Article about Lawsuit Aug. 2022
      • Article: Death Doula Lawsuit Dec. 2021
    • Upcoming April 20, 2023 Death Conversations Event
    • Workshop: In-Home After-death Care April 30, 2023
    • Past Educational Series March, 2023: AS YOU WISH: Creating a Beautiful End-of-Life
    • Past event Aquamation Presentation Jan. 18, 2023 link to recording
    • 2022 Past Events >
      • Article: Pregnancy Loss Conversations Feb, 2022
      • Past Film Event: Jack Has a Plan Aug. 2022
      • Past Event June 24, 2022 Presentation Organ and Tissue donation
      • Past Event Apr. 28, 2022 After-death Care presentation
      • PAST March 26, 2022 Cemetery Field Trip
      • Past Event March 17, 2022 Death Conversations- Breaking the silence
      • Past Event Jan 20, 2022 Death Conversations- Breaking the silence
    • PAST EVENTS 2021 >
      • Review: 2021 City of Hope, End:0f-Life Symposium December
      • Presentation Dec. 9th : "There's No Place Like Home." Home funeral Basics
      • Past Event: Nov. 2021- Medical Aid-in-Dying Update
      • Past Event: Natural Organic Reduction - Register
      • Past Events 2021 : June 18 -Field trip to Cherokee Cemetery
    • Newsletters
    • KVMR Podcasts: Featuring End-of-LIfe Doulas
    • PUBLISHED ARTICLES >
      • Article from The Order of the Good Death
      • Article: California's End-of-LIfe Option Act
      • Article Amigo Bob -Natural Organic Reduction Human Composting
      • April 2020 Ventilators in times of COVID-19
      • Union Article Caring Cradle Sept 2019
      • Giving Back After Tragedy, September 2019 The Union
      • Article The Union May 2019 New nonprofit
      • Article The Union August 2019 HBO Documentary
      • Choosing When to Die
      • Home Funeral Visitation
    • PAST EVENTS 2019/20 >
      • Past Event Oct 7 & 8, 2020 Holding Space for Pregnancy Loss
      • Death & Grieving around Corona Virus March 26, 2020
      • Past Event: Jan 26, 2020 Your Life, Your Choice, Your Plan
      • End-of-Life Doula Training with Inspired Endings - Oct 2019
      • June 9, 2019 Short Film & Death Conversation
      • Mar, Apr, May 2019
      • SEPT 2019 EVENT: Advance Directives + Dementia Directive
    • 2018 Past Events >
      • A Matter of Life & Death: Workshop Series Sept. 22, 2018
      • Nandi's Cancer Support Group September-October 2018
      • Past Events: 2018
      • Event May 20, 2018- Creating a Death Care Plan: Exploring Unconventional Options
      • Event: July 22, 2018 Death Cafe
    • 2017 PAST Events: August 27th -Understanding California's End-of-LIfe Option Act >
      • Deathwalker Training with Zenith Virago Sept 2017
      • Past Event: Film screening: Zen & the Art of Dying August 13, 2017
      • PAST Event: Film screening: Zen and the Art of Dying June 11, 2017
      • Past Event: Death Salon, A Gathering of Community to Discuss Death -MAR 26
      • Past Event - Exploring After Death Options: What Happens to our Bodily Remains? Feb 19, 2017 2-4pm
      • Going Out Green: Learn about Eco-friendly Home Funerals and Green Burial Cemetery JAN. 8, 2017
      • International Death Doula Training 2017
    • 2016 Events Planning Your Own Send-off May 1, 2016 >
      • Stephen Jenkinson Comes to NC March 14, 2016
      • Education, Presentations, Death Cafe
      • Event: Sunday Aug 28 2-4pm Home Funerals & Green Burial
    • EARLY YEARS 2013-2015 EVENTS
  • Resources
    • MAiD/California End of Life Option Act + Update SB 380 >
      • Links for California's End-of-Life Option Act
    • Bereavement Support in Nevada County >
      • Bereavement support Hospice of the Foothills, Nevada County
      • Grief Support: Jemma Skye Champeau
    • Advance Directives California + Dementia
    • Hospice of the Foothills, Nevada County
    • Senior Outreach Services, Nevada County
    • One Source Empowering Caregivers
    • Pregnancy and Infant Loss >
      • Cuddle Cot 2021
      • Union Article Caring Cradle 2019
    • Support group: Pregnancy and Infant Loss
    • End-of-Life Plan of Care
    • American Clinicians Academy on Medical Aid in Dying >
      • ACAMAID: Mixing medications
    • Physicians & Local Pharmacy >
      • Dr. Stephen Banister, Nevada County
    • VSED: Voluntarily Stopping Eating & Drinking >
      • Supporting a Loved One at End of Life
    • Body / Organ Donation
    • Threshold Choir
    • Resources and Links
    • People in the Death Trade & Training
    • Holding Space
  • FAQ
  • Companions for Pregnancy Loss
    • Cuddle Cot 2021
  • Death Related YouTube
  • Beauty of EOL Study
  • JOIN OUR TEAM
  • Bardo, Buddhism and the Art of Dying
  • Accomplishments
  • Remembrance donation
  • Kids Sit Vigil with their Granny
  • Sharon's End-of-life days
  • Nearing Death Awareness
  • After-Death Care of my Mom by Akhiila Murphy
  • Archive Video FCLD Collective
  • A Remembrance Gathering for Mom?
  • Marina Bokelman Legacy
  • Register for Aguamation
  • EOL Doulas fight for Rights